A Strong Single Mom
Dear Quick-to-Judge
I see you — staring at me with a baby on my hip, It’s obvious I’m “a little frantic.”
I see how fast you judge me and how quickly your eyes go to my wedding finger.
There’s no ring on there. Trust me I’ve checked.
But don’t feel sorry for me, don’t think my life is a wreck, that I was forced in this unfortunate predicament, or that I was irresponsible.
No, no.
I am PROUD of my decisions and my life.
I’m PROUD of the woman I’ve become.
I’m PROUD of the child I’m raising.
What if I told you I was previously engaged?
What if I told you the entire wedding was planned?
What if I told you I was unhappy for a long time and CHOSE my current life?
Would that make a difference?
I think it would.
I look at your life and wonder if you’re happy with the life you’re living, with the relationship you’re in, and the routine you put yourself through every day. Does that ring on your finger and those family photos in the hall simply show that you’re happy?
I see the judgement on a daily — ahem, I mean on an hourly basis. Everywhere I go I’m certain to get a judgy look from someone. I’m not condoning anyone to go out and become a single mom on a whim; it’s tough as shit. But every day I learn a little more about myself, I know what I like and what I don’t. I’ve become extremely resilient and mentally tough as nails. I do it all on my own and because of that I become more and more the woman I was meant to be.
So stop the judging. Stop feeling sorry. I feel sorry for anyone stuck in a loveless relationship with no strength to discover what they’re really made of.
xo,
CupKate
I don’t feel sorry, I do understand what you are saying so I support you. blessings!
Thank you Rick!!
Keep on keeping on…you’re making your little guy so proud of his mommy! Great job Katelyn! ❤️
Thanks Julie!!
So much ugly and negativity on the interwebs refreshing to see someone so positive.
I appreciate that so much!! I totally agree, I wish there was more positivity online too!
As a single Dad, I deal with the judgement regularly. The “I wonder what he did wrong” looks. The “he must have cheated and she left” looks. Nothing is more fulfilling then seeing your little one growing up and knowing you did it on your own. I don’t know you but it is obvious you are a great Mom and a great woman. Well done.
Totally!! I don’t understand how people are so quick to judge. Sometimes things just don’t work out and that’s ok. We all deserve to be happy.
i haven’t been following you on IG very long but you seem to be an amazing mom. Never let the haters get to you, I know you probably inspire a lot of single moms out there.
Thank you Chris 🙂 xo
You are always an inspiration! Thank you for looking through all the “crud” out there, seeing the good and sharing that experience with all of us.
You are very welcome! Thanks so much for leaving such a kind comment!
Baby girl I am SO FREAKING PROUD OF YOU! From the day I met you and your family do you were special. You have AMAZING parents who support you and thought you what love is and to be kind and caring to others. This is what you are showing your sweet boy. You are an AMAZING Mother, Women, Friend, Child of God! You my sweet girl HAVE GREATNESS WITHIN!!!
I want to let you know that WE ARE HERE IF YOU NEED US!
Love You
Mama Espi
Thank you Mama Espi, I miss you and the boys!!! Such great memories growing up 🙂
“Let no one think of me as humble or weak or passive. Let them understand that I am of a different kind: dangerous to my enemies, Loyal to my friends. To such a life glory belongs.”- Euripides, Medea (431 BC)
Keep being awesome. It’s contagious.
Oh I love that quote!! Thanks for sharing! I might have to use it on my page for inspo one of these days!!
Hey girl , I think that the words you speak are very strong . You are an amazing woman and mother …. Your independence is noticed and very well respected . In the world today you and I know the things we face on a daily basis . You seem to have a lot of Faith which is what gets us through all the things in life . Just know this , I have not judged you and will never do that for I myself do not want to be either . Keep the faith and know that Gods will shall be done ….. Your amazing to me !
Thank you for the awesome works Tim. God Bless!!
Thank you for the blog. It is inspiring me and making me think about a relationship I have been in and out of for almost a month. You are a strong woman and don’t let other people tell you otherwise. I hope your strength can rub off on me. I admire you.
How did everything go with your relationship Hilary? I hope it all went in a direction that makes you happy and loving life!
Almost a year hahahah whooops